The web we weave…

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Look around. Interesting times eh?  They do of course seem more interesting, or at least frenetic, because of the 24/7 360° reportage which blares from every conceivable corner of our ever increasingly digital existence. Wasn’t analogue better? A more accurate and continuous representation of the original sound – but no, we’ve gone for the black or white, right or wrong, binary approach.

People tell me that in terms of audio recordings, analogue was better, is better, than the strident, brash and crude tones which are extruded via mp3 players and from CDs. So much of the quality of the sound has been lost, reduced  – in some ways redacted.

A bit like the coverage of world events today. In your face, black and white, and often lacking in subtlety. We need to be discerning. For the discerning listener will note that there is a tangible shift, that amidst all the chatter there are some trends emerging. Things are rarely in reality as neatly deliniated as they are presented to us.

The now almost immediate global news coverage is a double edged sword. We realise how small this planet is and how interconnected we are and yet, we can get swamped and overwhelmed with all the ‘news’. So what to do – turn it all off perhaps? Or look for trends? Of those there are a few. And one of the biggest is a crying need for far better leadership; some may say there is simply a need for leadership full stop.

We don’t need the soundbites. We don’t need the straplines. We don’t need the soaring and yet ultimately crude rhetoric designed simply to bludgeon  emotions to illicit a binary reaction which fits some hidden agenda.

We need the analogue. We need to hear the detail, the full story, to read the open book.

I wonder what would happen if every leader thought not about short term shareholder happiness, or re-election, or their bonus, but more about truth, honesty, decency. Some do, some (powerful ones) don’t.

Is that too much to ask? Well…actually yes it is – because it is not to be asked for, it is to be demanded.

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Write thinking

The challenge that most of us face lies write between our ears. Yes, that’s right, ‘write’ between our ears!

 Our toughest challenges often reside within our own thought processes; essentially these challenges are frequently created, or at least can be compounded, by the way that we think. And very often our thinking is heavily influenced by the script that we follow, hence the ‘write between our ears’ phrase.

Sure there are challenges out ‘there’ and life can at times throw us some real curve balls (particularly it would seem in with all the turmoil that so many of us are facing today) but ‘that’s life’!

It isn’t as much, what has just happened to us that is the issue, because we may have little control over that, but it is often much more  a case of what do we do next? However, that next step can be difficult to take if we get stuck in a state of anger or annoyance about what has happened; and getting stuck makes the next step difficult because we can expend much of our energy on the projection of those emotions, thus draining our ‘battery’ of personal power.

We can get stuck in our thinking, like an actor reading the same script again and again, night after night. And if we follow the same internal conversation – we’ll tend to get the same results. We’re not thinking about solutions and we’re not thinking creatively, our thinking gets stuck in one ‘groove’; but if the outcome of that thinking is a life which we enjoy, then there may be no need to change.

However, if we are not enjoying some of the outcomes in our lives, it may be time to amend the ‘script’, or perhaps even rip it up!

The video (link below) expands on this, and offers one simple but, in some situations, very effective solution.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vqaczqWY3T4

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Broadbardment

If taking responsibility for our lives was important in the past, it is certainly crucial today. Look around you and notice how much you are being bombarded with images and sounds from around the world, and on a 24/7 basis.

 These images and sounds tend to be split into two camps. One ‘camp’ is the doom and gloom and destruction stories which appear to be on the increase, but are I suspect more as a result of the rapid and recent evolutionary leap in how information can be sent rapidly around the globe, and of how easily we can receive this information. In fact, we are being bombarded with ‘information’, from text to T.V. to podcasts and emails. It is difficult to escape it. On one hand I think that it is useful to be able to have access to information quickly and easily, however on the other hand, there can be a deleterious effect on our wellbeing if we allow ourselves to be hypnotised, and in some cases frightened by the deluge of negativity with which we are ‘broadcast’ – or should that be ‘broadbarded’?

This information becomes negative due, often, to the ‘spin’ which is put on it, the sensationalistic way that it is reported, and also because this seems to be the staple diet that we are fed – the positive stuff just seems to be ignored more often than not – or it appears as some fluffy add-on at the end of a news item. Why is that I wonder?

The second ‘camp’ is the onslaught of campaigns to entice us to buy ‘stuff’. Now whilst buying ‘stuff’ is central to ensuring that the economy continues to function (at least in its present form) the tidal wave of attention grabbing and potentially trance inducing strategies to get us to part with our cash, long before we even open the front door in the morning, is staggering.

It is not the fact that marketing and selling strategies are used; it is the fact that we are being overwhelmed by these techniques which is the cause for concern. Part of us actually realises that the ‘Uber-You’ that we are promised, and the life-style, and the happiness, isn’t really likely to happen, and that ignoring the true cost, may be really painful in due course.  And yet, such is the calculated seductiveness of the ‘story’ that, unless we are really vigilant, we can fall prey to it.

And so we must be aware of the need to generate our own futures, to set our own goals, and to understand that our ability to access our greatest success lies in us taking responsibility for ourselves and giving less attention to the attention ‘derailers’.

I have added some more thoughts to these in this video below:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hEU-0-hWiHo

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They smile…

I have posted a short little video below. It may seem to be a bit like wishful thinking, but we have to start somewhere. After all, work can sometimes be taxing, however, that doesn’t mean that it shouldn’t also be a decent place to be. And who sets the tone for that?

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Yves Saint Laurent, minus the Saint part…

The news that the company Yves Saint Laurent is targeting females in Russia and Asia with the mind-bending juggernaut of P.R. spin and marketing hype may not at first glance raise any eyebrows. However, the fact that the product which they are pushing is called a ‘cigarette’ is quite simply astounding.

This, presumably unsuspecting, part of the population will be under fire from the seductive might of an exceptionally well oiled and well-funded barrage of subtle and not so subtle imagery that will suggest that their lives will in some way be enhanced by purchasing, and smoking YSL cigarettes .

You see, these poor people won’t simply be buying a cigarette; they’ll be buying a YSL cigarette. And all the (totally fictitious) associations with glamour, fame, fortune, lifestyle and celebrity will be shoved, in this case literally, down their throat.

Let me say upfront, that if someone wishes to smoke, then that choice is entirely up to them. My challenge here is that YSL are using innate properties of our physical and psychological systems against us.

Firstly, there is the chemical ‘high’ that the nicotine in cigarettes can bring. We are rewarded by nature with ‘highs’ to encourage us to repeat those behaviours which may ultimately be good for us and the population. For example, we can gain a high through exercise, or we can gain a ‘high’ by being with loved ones.

Chemicals like nicotine can hijack this circuitry, and nicotine is highly addictive. YSL know this, and they presumably know that their product will kill people. And yet they are putting a lot of time, money, effort and energy into generating sales of their cigarettes in what they must see as a potentially lucrative market.

Secondly, many people on the planet want to feel better about themselves. They are bombarded with images and movies of how they could look, the lifestyles that they could have, and the relationships that could be theirs. Much of this is unrealistic and can generate a deep malaise within the individual, partly because these goals are not viable and/or because if they do actually achieve these things then the sense of emptiness which follows can be quite crushing; as the goals which they have striven for were never really theirs in the first place and were dreamt up by someone wanting to sell them something. There is of course nothing wrong with striving to better ourselves, but striving towards what? That which some clown in a suit (YSL no doubt) has deemed to be ‘success’, or that which is based on our life’s purpose?

And therefore this calculated strategy by YSL  is totally disgusting. Someone, or some group of individuals have coldly sat down and looked for opportunities to sell these health destroying cigarettes. Make no mistake, they are selling them to make money, not for the greater good of humanity. Now much of the world is governed by a capitalist mentality, but there is a big difference between going out into the marketplace to make a profit and satisfy customer and client requirements, and seeking to make money (and a lot of it) by destroying the health of others.

Who made this decision? Why did they make it? Was there a chance that the company was in trouble? I doubt it. And even if this were to rescue the company from financial ruin, this is still totally unacceptable behaviour. Are we really to accept that to allow some employees of ‘YSL Cigarette’ to eat cake, drink champagne, drive their SUVs, toast their bums in the hot tub and even pay the mortgage, that others should die?

I think not. You should be absolutely ashamed of yourselves YSL and you should desist immediately.

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Pick a leader, any leader…

Here’s a question for you. If you were going to pick the leader of your organisation (let’s assume that you have a say in the decision making process (you may actually have a say in the decision making process)) and that you had the choice between two individuals, who from this choice of two would you choose?

One individual is a bit emotional. They wear their heart on their sleeve. They are be prone to bouts of deep melancholia, and they sometimes spend periods of time experiencing a sense of profound euphoria. Whatever mood they are in, they tend to share it with you. They are deeply affected by the emotional state of those around them and will regularly cry, or cry with laughter in the canteen, dependent on what is going on around them.

The other individual shows no emotion at all. You suspect (as do others) that they actually experience no emotion whatsoever. They are polite enough, but there seems to be a lack of empathy and connection in the eyes. They make decisions purely by logic alone. They appear to have no close ties within the organisation at all.

Before you make your choice, consider who (if any) you would immediately discard, and what it is about that individual (or perhaps the two individuals) which causes you to reject them.

But hold on just a few minutes more, before you make your final choice. Have a think about a potential third individual. This may be your dream candidate. This individual is a combination of the two original candidates. This individual is totally emotionless on Mondays, and yet overflowing and deeply affected by emotions on Tuesdays. Luckily, they are back to being emotionless on Wednesdays, and just to balance things out they return to being an emotional Ping-Pong ball on Thursdays. And so the cycle repeats.

So, of the three, who do you pick? Surely, one of them must be ideal? The logic driven automaton? Or weeping/whooping Willomina/William? Or the Ping-Pong ball?

Now if you think that picking any one of these is a bit nuts, then I would tend to agree with you. And yet organisations do. The make the nutty appointments. The justifications for this go on and on, ‘we needed someone with that skill-set, and yes they are a bit cold, but…’ or, ‘they wear their heart on their sleeves because they care, and because they care they get affected by things, sometimes deeply’, or, ‘they have a bit of a hot and cold approach, but doesn’t everyone?’.

Let’s just stop doing this shall we? If leaders are going to lead, they must understand that they need to take into account all the aspects of a business, and these aspects include people. And people need balanced leaders. Unless a leader can attain a sufficient level of self-awareness, and self-management, they are not really leading; they are simply screwing everyone, often including themselves, up.

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Confrontation

The concept of confrontation can engender some mixed responses and feelings, depending on who you talk to. Some people love the idea of a ‘good fight’ and some people hate the idea of confrontation and would do anything to avoid it.

Now, confrontation may seem like a strange subject to be discussing so soon after my last post about ‘love’, but actually the two subjects are, in my opinion much more closely related  than they may seem at first glance.

I’m going to suggest that both of them are important in maintaining a healthy emotional balance. You see loving the competition as was suggested in the last post, is not necessarily about running off into the sunset together, but more about appreciating that ‘the other guy/gal’ is doing the best that they can based on what they currently know and what they currently feel.   Thinking about wanting to ‘screw them into the ground’ is not a particularly healthy state to be in really, is it? And even if they think this about you or your organisation (they may indeed be venomous or spiteful towards you or your company) just consider that for a moment, how horrible must their lives be? I mean, imagine being trapped inside a prison, a prison where a lot of their energy wasted in projecting those sorts of feelings on a regular basis; what a way to spend your time on the planet.

Reflecting back that spite or hatred really doesn’t do the situation any good at all; and it certainly does you no good. Hence, I suggest projecting love towards them. It may sound odd, but I urge you to try it out.

However, there is also another dimension to this, and that is where you are under consistent and relentless attack from someone who appears to be determined to belittle and demean you. If this is true, and you are not imagining it, and you have proof which exists outside of your own head – preferably confirmed by a trusted and well-balanced colleague, then it is time to act, for this may be a bully at work.

Send them love…and confront them. If you do not, your situation is likely to get worse. Nip it in the bud. Be nice, don’t get all stewed up, keep calm, send them good energy, but politely and firmly, confront your situation – and the more quickly you do this, the easier it will be.

Sending good thoughts inwards and outwards is emotionally healthy, as is taking action to confront situations before they become truly debilitating.  And that way it becomes much easier to remain positive in the future.

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Just wondering about…love

Just wondering about…love.

Is it too strong a word to use in business? Passion seems to be ok. Commitment seems to be ok. Enthusiasm seems to be ok. By ok, I mean acceptable to use in common business speak and generally accepted as a way to describe someone’s emotional interaction with part of, or all of their job. The words drive and energy also seem to be ok, and depending on which side of the fence you sit, stubborn, uncompromising, tough and even brutal, seems to be acceptable to some.

But what about love? Is love too strong a word to use in business? Yes we can love certain tasks, some people love to travel as part of their job, and some people even love their jobs. Of course it is fair to say that some people absolutely hate part of and even every part of their jobs. Sadly, some people hate their colleagues and/or their boss. That can’t be healthy for anyone involved.  Whilst it is not that uncommon for people to say that they love their job, it is less common to hear people say that they love their boss, although not unusual. It is also not unheard of for people to say that they love their colleagues.

However, have you ever heard anyone say that they love their competitors? Why is this so unusual? Why does it seem to sound so odd? Well, they are the competition, of course, but they are still human beings, aren’t they? Ah, but they will screw us if we don’t screw them first! Perhaps, but is that the way that we are meant to evolve as a species, dog eat dog? The outmoded and ludicrous financial, economic and monetary systems that really need an overhaul may indeed help to promote this attitude, but what if things could be changed, even slightly? What if profit was still important, but not at all costs? What if we genuinely learned to love our competitors? What if we could still compete, but inject love instead of hate, understanding instead of malice, compromise instead of greed? Would this be the end of civilisation we now know it, or might it perhaps begin the process of moving us away from that most debilitating of emotions…fear?

Pie in the sky? Nonsense? Rubbish? Unworkable? Perhaps, but it is time to challenge some of the existing paradigms, because I don’t know about you, but looking around at things as they currently are isn’t exactly inspiring me with the confidence that our current way of doing things doesn’t have a touch of madness about it.

Just wondering…

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On the extra terres trial trail

Let’s backtrack slightly. Just a couple of years back ‘Scientists’ had been exploring and studying deep ocean hydrothermal vents, when they were completely surprised to find the areas immediately around the vents were filed with life. The largest life form was apparently a tube worm that had formed a symbiotic relationship with a particular type of bacteria. Now the temperature of the water coming out of the vents varies from 68 degrees to as much as 600 degrees Fahrenheit. (Note to the discerning reader – water reaches the boiling point at 225 degrees Fahrenheit at sea-level, but near hydrothermal vents, the water coming out of the vents doesn’t boil due to the extreme hydrostatic pressure of all the overlying water – take two points away from yourself if you didn’t realise this! Actually, it is much the same principle as celebrity facelifts. The hydrostatic pressure from their drum tightened skin stops their plastic implants from bubbling under the strong Californian sunlight).

Now up until this point, scientists had presumed that such a community of diverse life forms, could not survive, far less thrive, in such an inhospitable environment. The bacteria (or is that ‘um’- um…I’m not sure) thrive on hydrogen sulfide, a gas which is released from the vents. The symbiotic bit (think Tories and Lib Dems here for a more precise definition of this) is that the tube worm’s insides are lined with the bacteria which then oxidises the hydrogen sulphide, thus turning it into usable nutrients for the worms. The bacteria gain because the worms supply blood which contains haemoglobin, which helps the bacteria to break down the sulfides. I do hope that you are reading this over breakfast.

Until the discovery of these bacteria , scientists didn’t believe it was possible for anything to survive in the extreme environment around deep ocean vents; and we’re told that the discovery of the deep-sea thermal vents and the life they support has completely changed the way we define life.

Now, let’s go forward in time to just a few months ago. Researchers conducting NASA funded astrobiology tests in the also inhospitable environment of Mono Lake in California discovered the first known microorganism on Earth able to thrive and reproduce using the toxic chemical arsenic. (Although some talent show judges may also fit that definition). Apparently the microorganism substitutes arsenic for phosphorus in its cell components.

“The definition of life has just expanded,” says Ed Weiler, NASA’s associate administrator for the Science Mission Directorate at the agency’s Headquarters in Washington. “As we pursue our efforts to seek signs of life in the solar system, we have to think more broadly, more diversely and consider life as we do not know it.”

Quite recently we also heard that the one common denominator for life as we know it, and life as we don’t know it…is water. Water it would seem is the key. We can have many different variations of the environment within which life can survive, but water (according to current thinking) must be present. It also now seems that water is on the Moon, as ice; and is highly likely to have been on Mars and may well still be there, again in its frozen form, ice.

Fast forward now to a couple of days ago. We are told that a NASA scientist has produced research that may prove that extraterrestrial life could bear similar characteristics to the life we know on Earth. Dr. Richard B. Hoover, (didn’t he also invent the vacuum cleaner (?) or looking at his name again, perhaps it was a device intended for private use only) an astrobiologist with NASA’s Marshal Space Flight Center, has made these conclusions in a study which appeared in the March edition of the Journal of Cosmology.

The story goes , Dr. Hoover travelled to some of the world’s most remote regions such as Siberia, Alaska, and Antarctica and gathered some of the rarest meteorites known to exist on the planet. He then extracted fossilized bacteria from the meteorites and now believes that they are the remains of living organisms which existed on the meteorites before they entered earth’s atmosphere.

With me so far? This slow leak of ideas and information is soooo boring and a bit of an insult. I think that some people must think that we are stupid. We are not Tom Cruise, we can handle the truth. There is extraterrestrial life. Yawn. This planet was seeded from elsewhere. Yawn.

No panic, no breakdown of law, order and religion. Yes, I think we’ve kinda guessed that given the fact that there are an awful lot of planets out there, and given the fact that the galaxy has been around for rather a long period of time, other life has evolved. And this doesn’t have to preclude the existence of God. In fact, she may have been involved!

And yes, we have seen the inexplicable UFO videos and accounts, (some accounts having again been recently released by the UK Government) so we do understand that the situation may be complex, for example, that it takes a species a little bit more advanced than a bacteria to fly one of these devices, (I hope that I’m not being a bacteriaist) so, come on. Just get it off your chest. We’ll cope. If Roswell, was real, if Close Encounters was an autobiography, if Men in Black was a documentary, we will live with it.

But where Governments will really get into trouble, where there will be a mass uprising, where people will riot and loot and generally enter a period of mass hysteria, is not if they’ve been keeping advanced technology like interstellar travel from us, or zero point energy devices, or a cure for the common cold, but, if Area 51 has, all this time, been being used to hide Marty McFly’s hoverboard! Then the s&&t will really hit the Stargate!

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The world is a funny place, the supernova opportunity

The biggest bit of news this week is of course that Betelgeuse, a star somewhere out there in the heavens may explode. Apparently the star, 640 light-years from Earth and in the Orion constellation, is close to going supernova. Many writers are saying that if this star does go supernova, it will give the appearance of having two suns in the sky. Well, they are wrong. That wouldn’t give the appearance of having two suns in the sky, there would be two suns in the sky, wouldn’t there? If this supernova event happens it is expected to produce 24 hour daylight for up to a couple of weeks. Dr. Brad Carter, Senior Lecturer of Physics at the University of Southern Queensland, Australia suggests that the star may go supernova in 2011, 2012, or…check this out… in the next million years.   

Now I’m not an astrologer, but I’d say that Dr. Carter may be hedging his bets a little there. (He should probably double-up as an economic forecaster as well). That doesn’t really narrow it down too much. I know some people are worried about 2012, and the whole Mayan calendar thing, but look, if it did happen in 2011 or 2012, think of the fun we could have. People are already thinking wondrous thoughts about all the amazing things they could do whilst also acting out their Star Wars Tatuin fantasies, things like; playing football or golf at night, going for walks in town in the evening, reading a book on the porch in the wee small hours – but wait…that all seems familiar, oh yes, I remember, it is called the electric light bulb. However, perhaps that would be the real trick, if Betelgeuse does go supernova (actually it may already have – isn’t there something about light taking time to reach us from these distant stars?) we could solve several issues at once, and one of them is connected to the electric light bulb.

Firstly, we could switch off all the lights on the planet, thus saving energy and being very green (presumably a very bright green) for a couple of weeks. We could also charge giant batteries using solar panels from the excess of sunlight we’d be receiving – again helping reduce energy consumption – and live off those for a few months. (Think of the reduction in your electricity and gas bills). And we could devise a planet wide game of musical chairs, but instead of music, we could use light.  Billions of chairs could be placed around the planet and when night-time eventually kicked back in, the last person standing would have to do the dishes – or at least switch all the lights back on. Think of the saving on labour costs.

Now allegedly, 99 percent of the energy from the supernova will be in the form of nuetrinos. These little particles pass through us, we are told, with no harm whatsoever; but, this may be what ‘they’ want us to believe. Personally, I’m going to stock up with bread, the idea of making toast in the evening simply by holding up a slice in the air, sounds great. Again, another power cost saving. I’m really looking forward to the whole supernova thing. Of course, the discerning reader will have been wondering about the harmful ultraviolet radiation that might be emitted from having two suns in the sky. Well, I have the answer.

A simple application of what is being hailed as ‘the hottest beauty wonder product’ should suffice. Perhaps that should be rephrased as, hailed as the ‘temperature of a small bird’s insides beauty wonder product’. For this wonder product is, wait for it, nightingale excrement! Yes really, it is collected from the Japanese island of Kyushu, and from there it is applied directly to your face. (I have to wonder, who tried that out in the first place – and what were they thinking? Was it a slow day at the office? Did they suddenly get an urge to go and rub nightingale droppings all over their face? Perhaps it was a form of punishment, ‘I’ll teach you’, rub, rub, rub ‘oh my goodness, that backfired, you are now totally beautiful, damn’. Or perhaps they got bored waiting for someone to invent the process of injecting themselves in the face with Clostridium Botulinum, the bacterium that produces neurotoxins. Actually that makes the dung mask sound sensible). So there we have it. The supernova kicks-in, we reduce our energy consumption drastically, we enjoy the endless daylight, and we wander about safely under the protective cover of an emulsion of nightingale excrement.  

The added bonus is that this will also slow the rate of the increase in our burgeoning population, at least for a couple of weeks, as no-one will be going near anyone else whilst they have faeces faces. As 2012 draws near, I think all of our problems may well be solved.

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